Have you ever noticed that some of us either instantly or gradually morph into our significant others? This reminded me of a passage from Liz Gilbert's book, "Eat, Pray, Love" when she describes an instance when she was having dinner with her friends and her most recent flame. When they both got up and got ready to leave the party, Liz's friend points out to her, "You know Liz you used to look like your ex-husband, now you're starting to look like David (aka the latest boyfriend)." Ouch, just as Liz described it, that's a major slap in the face.
Why is it a slap in the face? After years of female suffrage and equality for all, a comment that you are gradually turning into your partner is down right insulting. Romantic partners are not twins. They are each others complements. Long gone are the days of the man ruling with the iron fist and the woman behaving subservient and passive. The joining of two people has become a partnership, or the act of participation, association, and joint interest as defined by dictionary.com.
For years I have been the woman who twisted and transformed herself into the morph of her partner, only to lose myself in the process. And all for what...to win the affection and love of a man. Why had it never occurred to me that maybe just the simple act of being me is the catalyst to get a man to love you. No wizardry or dark magic. The simplest and easiest thing you can do...just be you. Here is the other clincher, if he doesn't love you for who you truly are, meaning your genuine self, then he doesn't deserve you to begin with.
John Jakes wrote, “Be yourself. Above all, lett who you are, what you are, whoat you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish." The moral of the story...when it comes to relationships, the best you is the real you. That is the person that deserves love and has the capacity to give love. No body wants a fake diamond or a fake Fendi. Why in the world would they want a fake you? Just like any fake, the real thing is hundred times better and worth the exorbitant price of owning it. You are worth it! You are priceless!